{"id":8582,"date":"2011-09-28T10:17:58","date_gmt":"2011-09-28T14:17:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.blessingsmultiplied.com\/?p=8582"},"modified":"2011-09-28T10:17:58","modified_gmt":"2011-09-28T14:17:58","slug":"loosening-my-grip-why-cant-i-get-pregnant-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blessingsmultiplied.com\/?p=8582","title":{"rendered":"Loosening My Grip: Why Can’t I Get Pregnant? (Part 2)"},"content":{"rendered":"

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If you missed it, you can read “Why Can’t I Get Pregnant” Part 1<\/a>.
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Now that I have learned to let go of my personal agenda, that I will not always receive clear answers, doctors can be puzzled, and to rejoice with others even when my heart is heavy<\/a> I can continue onto the next phase which I had been longing for right?<\/p>\n

Learning to Share with to Others<\/strong><\/p>\n

After three years of trying to have children and the emotional roller coaster I was getting discouraged.\u00a0 We did everything the doctors told us to do yet still no children.\u00a0 At this point I decided to start praying specifically for a person I could talk to about what I was going through.\u00a0 When certain people would bring up the tough topic I would share a little bit about what we were going through.\u00a0 Although, they were extremely compassionate and many began praying along with me none of them had been through similar situations.\u00a0 I found out that several of my friends and family members had experienced miscarriages which is another equally emotional situation when you are trying to start a family.\u00a0 One beautiful lesson I learned during this time in my life is by opening up my heart to others it gave them the confidence to share their own struggles.\u00a0 Even though my struggles were different it allowed me to pray for others while going through a tough season myself.\u00a0 Each person has their own set of items they are learning to loosen their grip on and by praying for others it took my focus off myself so I could be an encouragement to those around me.<\/p>\n

Power of Praying Friends<\/strong><\/p>\n

By opening my heart to a few people it did ease some of the hurt I was feeling.\u00a0 Some days were still tough but at least I had a network of people praying for us as a couple and as a family.\u00a0 I felt like my OB wasn’t interested in helping and when I would call his office I would get the nurse’s voice mail after several prompts and since I wasn’t pregnant, scheduling or an emergency many times the nurse would never call me back.\u00a0 When you have a group of people praying with you the direction seems so much clearer.\u00a0 At this point in the journey I knew it was time to consider seeing another doctor.<\/p>\n

Miracle of Answered Prayers<\/strong><\/p>\n

A few months later after much prayer I decided to ask Jake’s cousin, Mandy, who was a local nurse for recommendations on OB’s doctors.\u00a0 Mandy was truly an answer to prayer.\u00a0 She is a nurse and knew a lot of doctors so she had a better idea of where to direct me.\u00a0 I ended up going to one of the OB’s she recommended.\u00a0 Mandy was more of an encouragement then she’ll probably ever know during this season in my life.\u00a0 God used her to guide me to the professional doctors I needed in my life during this time.<\/p>\n

A Fresh Perspective<\/strong><\/p>\n

The new doctor was great, listened, and recommended I at least consider meeting with a fertility doctor.\u00a0 We met with the fertility doctor and he was very positive, however, wanted to do more tests.\u00a0 Then wait a few months. One of the recommendations he made to us was for me to consider finding a less stressful career.\u00a0 I was working long hours at an attorney’s office and Jake had been encouraging me to look for something less stressful as well, but I didn’t want to stop working until after I had kids (yet another area I was attempting to control in my life).\u00a0 Also, during this time we were made aware that the prescription I was given by my previous OB was 4 times stronger<\/a> than what I should have been taking (which is why I was so sick).\u00a0 Thankfully, God worked in that situation and gave us wisdom to stop taking it.<\/p>\n

Difficult Decisions<\/strong><\/p>\n

After seeing the doctor Jake and I prayed about my work situation again and decided (reluctantly at first) that I should quit and look for something part time that was less stressful.\u00a0 It was difficult giving up a job that I worked so hard at but at the same time if I wanted a family it was something I needed to do. \u00a0 A couple months later I found a really neat part time position that was great and more laid back, yet another amazing answer to prayer.<\/p>\n

A New Opportunity<\/strong><\/p>\n

During that waiting period Mandy approached me and told me about a new Case Study a friend of hers was doing called “Fit & Fertile” and it was being led by the fertility doctor I met several months before.\u00a0 The study was on changing your diet, exercise, and lower stress level to see if a series of non-medicated changes could help women get pregnant.\u00a0 In that group I met amazing women that were experiencing similar situations.\u00a0 Some of them already had one child but couldn’t have a second and others were like me and were unable to get pregnant even the first time.\u00a0 The nurse and doctor did blood work before and after the study but otherwise that was it.\u00a0 I was a little weary of the case study working but God had obviously directed me to it so I had to follow through with it trusting He knew what was best for me.<\/p>\n

\u2026\u2026this series will be continued next Wednesday!<\/em><\/p>\n

A little bit more about the Loosening My Grip series<\/span><\/p>\n

Looking back over the last few years it is much easier to see God’s perfect timing.\u00a0 It was painful waiting, having people constantly ask questions, going to the doctor, praying, dealing with the emotions, and feeling like God didn’t even care.<\/p>\n

After much prayer and resistance I have decided to start my “Loosening My Grip” series.\u00a0 I came up with the theme and idea more than a year ago.\u00a0 Every time I start to write a little more on this topic I decide to just not do it.\u00a0 Why?<\/p>\n