Flashback Friday: Sharing, Sleeping, & Surgery
Brina and Karlie sharing a pacifier
Today our Flashback Friday hits when the girls were only between 1 – 2 months old after coming home from NICU. They shared everything and could sleep peacefully in the most unusual positions. It was much easier to get their pictures at this stage because they were not mobile yet. Thankful for these little blessings. It doesn’t seem like these days were that long ago.
They were preemies and came home on heart / apnea monitors for the first few months. You can see the wires coming out of their clothes in many of the early pictures. We never had to worry about them stopping breathing because the monitors would always alarm if they did. It wasn’t long before we got used to it.
During this time Karlie also had to go back into the hospital to have surgery. Her stomach wasn’t getting the milk she was drinking and she was throwing up after feeding. It was pretty scary taking our little one back in for surgery. Watching her being wheeled off to the operating room in the huge crib broke my heart. Thankful for Doctors and their help during this time.
Baby sleeping pile
Somehow Karlie managed to scoop herself until her bottom was against the wall and had her feet resting up on the wall while snoozing away.
Karlie resting after surgery with her huge IV bandage
Brina hanging out in the pillow. She thought it was pretty cool standing up at first, but decided after a few minutes she would rather be free.
Life Simplified: Meal Delivery
Every new year we set goals, challenge ourselves to reach new heights and to focus on what’s really important in life. In 2011 I have made it a goal to simplify my life more by enjoying the blessings and not wasting what God has given me. I will be sharing with you the successes and challenges on those specific areas in my life as I go through them. I have already shared with you my 1st Life Simplified Goal of No Grocery Shopping for the month of January. One of the most rewarding blessings in life is sharing what you have with others. My second Life Simplified Goal goes along with that piece.
My 2nd Life Simplified Goal:
- Deliver 1 Meal a Month to a family outside of our household
Explanation of the Goal: In 2010 I signed up to deliver meals to new Moms after they came home from the hospital, people who had surgery and various other volunteer opportunities. There were a couple months I didn’t do any meals and other months I had several extra meals to prepare. For example, in December I had 4 extra meals to prepare and deliver outside of our home before the week of Christmas, some of them being over an hour away, plus we had a Christmas Eve party at our house and guests staying with us for a week. While I enjoy the blessing of helping others I need to work on saying “No” once I have met my limit. After much prayer and talking with my husband we have decided it would be best for our family if I would stick to 1 meal delivery a month. Once I have delivered a meal in a month I will have to say no to any additional inquiries. There are so many people out there that need help, however, I have to decide what is best for our family too. I want the girls to continue participating in these amazing acts of service and having a limit will give us the freedom to continue to do it without putting our family in a spot we are over our budget. I think with all the people in our church and community that if everyone did just one meal a month for someone needing a meal there would even be extra to go around.
I will continue to deliver meals for people once a month. Below are the opportunities that I am currently and will continue to be involved in:
- Moms with Newborn Babies
- People coming home from Surgery
- Death in the Family
- Other Volunteer Needs for Meal Delivery
I have a hard time saying “no” to someone in need but in order for me to have the opportunity to continue ministering to others in this way I need to stick to the goal as well as respect my husband in his decision to help me with this area I love to volunteer. I will share with you the challenges, successes along the way so you can keep me accountable or you can even go through the journey with me by participating and sharing your story.
Life Simplified is a series on getting rid of the extras in our life while learning how to enjoy what God has given us so we can continue to be a blessing to others. Our homes can quickly start are bursting with “stuff” and if you are like us we just have too much. I am doing a series on ways we are learning to simplifying our food, homes, and lives. When our hearts, lives, and homes get too cluttered we may start missing out on opportunities to serve and bless the people around us.
Loosening My Grip: No More Repairs…..Please!
Let’s just say 2010 was in some ways….painful…..at least when you look at it from a budget standpoint. Our budget was (ouch) way off after many unforeseeable major repairs and events. There are some things that happen in life that are completely out of our control and as a person that likes to plan ahead it can really catch me off guard. Many of the repairs were out of our hands and we were doing exactly what we thought God wanted us to do with our lives, however, there can be a turns up ahead in life that will guide us in directions that we did not necessarily expect. How we react and choose to move forward when we come to a crossroad is where the true test comes especially if we don’t like the direction the road is taking. The amazing part is God gave us peace and after many months of praying He gave us a very vivid answer to some of our questions. I am grateful everything continued working as long as it had, however, there for a few months it was like the domino effect around our house. I felt like anything I touched broke. We almost always buy used items and several things had been acting up for several months or years. Thankfully I have an wonderful husband who budgets and has planned ahead enough to have an emergency fund. Although we went over our small emergency fund during the last few months I know with God’s help, planning, sticking to the budget, and cutting back we can overcome these speed bumps.
What type of items started this drum roll effect?
- Car Purchase – Jake was rear ended in November 2009 at a stop sign by the person behind him who failed to stop until she hit his car. His car was sandwiched between two cars and totaled. Thankfully he was wearing his seat belt. The insurance gave us some money to compensate for his car. Unfortunately his car was paid off and we had to adjust to having one car with business events, meetings, kids, school, and everything else for several months. We couldn’t find a car within the allotted price range so we continued to look. The market for used cars in our price range was low plus the “Cash for Clunkers” took additional used cars out of the market. Finally, in March 2010 we were able to locate a usable car within our budget that he could drive. I am thankful he now has a reliable car to drive.
- Business Expenses – several years ago we started our business as a way to help others and LOVE it, however, in 2010 the expenses were higher than anticipated and God showed us clearly the direction he wanted our family to take. It has been an amazing journey seeing His hand working in our hearts, lives, and the business.
- Jake’s Surgery – with the car accident from November 2009 Jake continued to have issues, we were hoping and praying that he would get better on his own, however, he had surgery in April to repair the damage. Thankfully, after the surgery and a few months of physical therapy he is doing better even though like any injury the damage is done and continues to have a ripple effect. We still haven’t been able to get the medical expenses covered from the person running into him (even though it has been over a year) but hopefully it will be done in 2011.
- Roof Repair – in August 2010 we after a pretty steady period of rain storms we had a tree fall on our house. It was a domino effect of insurance, adjusters, roofers, and many more people trying to get it repaired before it rained again. We were thankful to have an acquaintance do the majority of the repairs and roof. It is amazing that you are required to pay insurance on time every month to get coverage, however, when you have a claim on it takes months to get the issue resolved. We still have a few minor repairs remaining but we are thankful to have a roof over our heads and the majority of the work completed.
- Laptop – I have been fortunate enough to never have to purchase a new laptop. My husband has always been able to piece together a desktop or laptop for me to use from what he has available from doing work for others. This year the hand-me-down machine died and the laptop was slowly wearing out with a major crack in the screen. For my birthday I got my first ever new computer which has been a true blessing.
I will continue with the domino effect of repairs we had in the last few months of 2010 later this week. Thankfully we all made it to 2011 healthy and happy despite the adventure along the way.
Loosening My Grip is a series on areas in my life I am learning to let go of slowly. A couple months ago I was studying Jonah and one of the phrases that popped out at me was “Whatever you are holding on to in this life, hold it loosely so it won’t hurt when the Lord has to pry your fingers open to take it away.” I have found that in some areas God has had to pry my fingers off of whatever I am holding onto one finger at a time. There are areas in my life that I feel like I need control over and hold onto them tightly. I have been learning how to let go and hold loosely so God can do His work in my life.